{"id":1119,"date":"2020-01-10T10:57:55","date_gmt":"2020-01-10T10:57:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/fabianfoley.com\/?page_id=1119"},"modified":"2025-12-21T12:55:25","modified_gmt":"2025-12-21T12:55:25","slug":"my-books","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/fabianfoley.com\/","title":{"rendered":"My Books"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>When I started writing The Outing, my first book, my head was inside a different story. I remember sitting down to write and looking out the French doors (they really were doors in France). Opening my laptop I decided to check the news before getting underway. Classic procrastination. But this time it led to the start of an obsession.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-columns is-layout-flex wp-container-core-columns-is-layout-28f84493 wp-block-columns-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\" style=\"flex-basis:33.33%\">\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"650\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/fabianfoley.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/Older-Bestie-2-650x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-31333\" srcset=\"https:\/\/fabianfoley.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/Older-Bestie-2-650x1024.jpg 650w, https:\/\/fabianfoley.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/Older-Bestie-2-190x300.jpg 190w, https:\/\/fabianfoley.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/Older-Bestie-2-768x1211.jpg 768w, https:\/\/fabianfoley.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/Older-Bestie-2.jpg 812w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 650px) 100vw, 650px\" \/><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\" style=\"flex-basis:66.66%\">\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A headline caught my eye. The story was about a thirty-year-old suicide verdict in the NSW (Australia) Coroner\u2019s Court being overturned. It was now murder. A gay hate crime. And as I sat thinking about this poor man and his family, I almost wasn\u2019t surprised to feel tears rolling down my face. It brought up all the fears I\u2019d had for my own son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It also stirred an urge to know more. I tried to talk myself out of it. I needed to get on with my current project. <\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>But the feeling wouldn\u2019t leave, and I began reading the original articles, then looking at other news about other gay men who\u2019d been attacked and killed. I didn\u2019t even know there was such a thing as a &#8216;gay-panic&#8217; get-out-of-jail-free card. It was like they were all my son, and I couldn\u2019t lose the horrible guilt, the sense of powerlessness, the overwhelming sadness, and the anger.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Robert became the focal point of this feeling and the main character in The Outing, and I couldn\u2019t not tell his story.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The Outing <\/h2>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-columns is-layout-flex wp-container-core-columns-is-layout-28f84493 wp-block-columns-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\" style=\"flex-basis:33.33%\">\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/amzn.to\/4aDatZn\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"682\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/fabianfoley.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/02\/Untitled-9-x-6-in-682x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-31171\" srcset=\"https:\/\/fabianfoley.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/02\/Untitled-9-x-6-in-682x1024.jpg 682w, https:\/\/fabianfoley.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/02\/Untitled-9-x-6-in-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/fabianfoley.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/02\/Untitled-9-x-6-in-768x1152.jpg 768w, https:\/\/fabianfoley.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/02\/Untitled-9-x-6-in-1024x1536.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/fabianfoley.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/02\/Untitled-9-x-6-in-1320x1980.jpg 1320w, https:\/\/fabianfoley.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/02\/Untitled-9-x-6-in.jpg 1333w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 682px) 100vw, 682px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\" style=\"flex-basis:66.66%\">\n<p style=\"font-size:16px\">&nbsp;As the mother of a gay son the story of Alan Turing, the first gay man on a British banknote was one of the many to motivate me to write The Outing. The news articles i read about this man brought tears to my eyes. Alan was an outstanding computer scientist and a war hero but that didn\u2019t spare him from what some have called a \u201cwitch hunt\u201d of gay and bisexual men in the U.K., which led to the imprisonment of thousands of gay men and those suspected of being gay throughout the 1950s.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-medium-font-size\"><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/amzn.to\/3z9Q3uv\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Click Here to Learn More<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>In January 1952, Turing was prosecuted for indecency over his relationship with another man in Manchester. Despite being referred to as a \u201cnational asset\u201d during this trial by character witness Hugh Alexander, the head of cryptanalysis at the Government Communications Headquarters, Turing was persecuted.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Amazon Audible <\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p><em>The Outing<\/em> is my very first audiobook, and bringing it to life has been a much bigger journey than I ever expected. Over the past year, I taught myself everything from the ground up \u2014 choosing and learning recording software, settling on Audacity, figuring out how to use it properly, and learning how to record my own voice in a way that was clear, consistent, and true to the story. Then came the editing: listening back, cutting, fixing, re-recording, and slowly shaping raw audio into something listenable and professional.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It was a lot of work \u2014 far more than I imagined \u2014 but it mattered to me to do it right. <em>The Outing<\/em> is a story I believe in deeply, and I wanted to make sure it was available to people who prefer to experience stories through sound rather than the page. Audiobooks open stories up in a different way: more intimate, more immediate. Getting this story out there in audio form felt important, and I\u2019m proud that it\u2019s finally available for listeners to discover.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Audible Bounty Referral (New Users Only)<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>If you are <strong>new to Audible<\/strong>, you can listen to <em>The Outing<\/em> by signing up through my <strong>Audible referral link<\/strong>. This is my first audiobook, and if you choose to sign up using my Audible referral link, you\u2019ll be supporting me to continue learning, recording, and producing more audiobooks in the future.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The ACX Bounty Referral Program is available in the following Audible marketplaces:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.audible.com.au\/pd\/B0G8DY8D92\/?source_code=AUDORWS022318009C-BK-ACX0-486775&amp;ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_486775_rh_au\" data-type=\"link\" data-id=\"https:\/\/www.audible.com.au\/pd\/B0G8DY8D92\/?source_code=AUDORWS022318009C-BK-ACX0-486775&amp;ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_486775_rh_au\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Click here for Australia<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.audible.ca\/pd\/B0G88F94JB\/?source_code=AMNORWS022318003G-BK-ACX0-486775&amp;ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_486775_rh_ca\" data-type=\"link\" data-id=\"https:\/\/www.audible.ca\/pd\/B0G88F94JB\/?source_code=AMNORWS022318003G-BK-ACX0-486775&amp;ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_486775_rh_ca\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Click here for Canada<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.audible.fr\/pd\/B0G887WHCC\/?source_code=FRAORWS022318903B-BK-ACX0-486775&amp;ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_486775_rh_fr\" data-type=\"link\" data-id=\"https:\/\/www.audible.fr\/pd\/B0G887WHCC\/?source_code=FRAORWS022318903B-BK-ACX0-486775&amp;ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_486775_rh_fr\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Click here for France<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.audible.de\/pd\/B0G877YKYM\/?source_code=EKAORWS0223189009-BK-ACX0-486775&amp;ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_486775_rh_de\" data-type=\"link\" data-id=\"https:\/\/www.audible.de\/pd\/B0G877YKYM\/?source_code=EKAORWS0223189009-BK-ACX0-486775&amp;ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_486775_rh_de\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Click here for Germany<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.audible.co.uk\/pd\/B0G88JSFPY\/?source_code=AUKFrDlWS02231890H6-BK-ACX0-486775&amp;ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_486775_rh_uk\" data-type=\"link\" data-id=\"https:\/\/www.audible.co.uk\/pd\/B0G88JSFPY\/?source_code=AUKFrDlWS02231890H6-BK-ACX0-486775&amp;ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_486775_rh_uk\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Click here for United Kingdom<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.audible.com\/pd\/B0G87MKGF5\/?source_code=AUDFPWS0223189MWT-BK-ACX0-486775&amp;ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_486775_rh_us\" data-type=\"link\" data-id=\"https:\/\/www.audible.com\/pd\/B0G87MKGF5\/?source_code=AUDFPWS0223189MWT-BK-ACX0-486775&amp;ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_486775_rh_us\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Click here for United States<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Using this link:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>You\u2019ll be signing up as a <strong>new Audible member<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>You\u2019ll be able to listen to the audiobook<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>I may receive a small referral bonus from Audible, at no extra cost to you<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The Man with the Butterfly Mind <\/h2>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-columns is-layout-flex wp-container-core-columns-is-layout-28f84493 wp-block-columns-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\" style=\"flex-basis:33.33%\">\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/amzn.to\/3XmjsLh\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"682\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/fabianfoley.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/09\/New-Cover-Gold-9x6in-682x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-31361\"\/><\/a><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\" style=\"flex-basis:66.66%\">\n<p><strong>What happens when the only living soul who knows you are missing is your dog.<\/strong><br><br>JD has lost his name, his memories, and the everyday skills we all take for granted. But it\u2019s sort-of OK, because he can\u2019t remember what his life should be like.<br>Bimba has lost her owner. It\u2019s all her fault, and she&#8217;s determined&nbsp;to find him, give him love-you-licks, and make-it-better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-medium-font-size\"><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/amzn.to\/3XmjsLh\">Click here to Learn More<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><br><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>When Meko finds an adorable furry bundle of dog&nbsp;is the reason she can\u2019t open the door at&nbsp;work, she doesn\u2019t hesitate to help.<br>When DrGreg finds a captivating Japanese woman with an unresponsive dog&nbsp;are his next patients, he doesn\u2019t hesitate to help.<br>When MrsB momentarily loses her self-doubt and her phantom allergies, she finds a tentative&nbsp;willingness to help.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As&nbsp;the strangers\u2019 lives and destinies converge around Bimba, none of them expect what happens next.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><br>An inspiring story of loss and grieving, redemption and overcoming adversity, where what we get isn\u2019t what we thought we wanted, and often happiness is disguised, waiting for us to catch on or catch up. A story with heart and humour,&nbsp;as uplifting as it is captivating.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I met Bimba and her best friend Lola, both rescue dogs, in Agua Amarga, a beautiful isolated village in the stunning Cabo de Gata National Park in Southern Spain. We were looking after them while their owner was away visiting family overseas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She was cute and quiet and her owner said she&#8217;d been mistreated. So how did she become one of the main characters in The Man with the Butterfly Mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Driving home from a stock up visit to the supermarket and not coming across a single other vehicle I wondered what would happen to Bimba and Lola, if for some reason, I didn&#8217;t make it back.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It&#8217;s not a nice thought is it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The idea persisted (always a good indication that there&#8217;s something that wants to be explored). 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